The Top Three Turn-Offs of Christianity

By Robin Schumacher

Originally posted at The Christian Post

In the near countless debates and conversations I've had with both unbelievers and believers alike about Christianity, there are without a doubt three top stumbling blocks or "turn-off's" that have surfaced in most conversations that are either one of the reasons non-Christians say they won't consider Christ or that have caused Christians to struggle in their faith. Although there are certainly plenty of other items that unbelievers cite as to why they won't embrace Christianity or that believers mention that they find difficult, here are the top three obstacles that I've seen come up most times.

Something Wicked This Way Comes

What do Charles Darwin, Ted Turner, and Bart Ehrman have in common?

Although in different disciplines, all have very strong intellects and all admit that the reason they either reject God entirely or are agnostic about His existence is because they can't square the evil they've experienced in their own lives or seen played out on the world's stage and the idea of a supreme Deity.

For Turner it was watching his young sister die [1], with Darwin it was the death of his young daughter Annie [2], and for Ehrman it is the general problem of theodicy. [3]

The problems of reconciling an all-powerful/good God with the evil and tragedies that occur in life have caused endless discussions between unbelievers and believers. No thinking person can deny the thorny issue that the topic presents, especially when it's your child who is accidentally killed or dies slowly from a degenerative disease or when it's your particular nationality that is systematically hunted down and exterminated by political tyrants.

When evil touches them, oftentimes people begin to question God's existence and consider the atheist option offered by Richard Dawkins for why evil exists:
In a universe of electrons and selfish genes, blind physical forces and genetic replication, some people are going to get hurt, other people are going to get lucky, and you won't find any rhyme or reason in it, nor any justice. The universe that we observe has precisely the properties we should expect if there is, at bottom, no design, no purpose, no evil, no good, nothing but blind pitiless indifference. [4]
Unanswered Prayer

(Spoiler Alert: if you haven't seen the movie God's Not Dead yet and don't want to know the ending, skip the first parts of this section).

Near the end of the movie God's Not Dead, the atheist college professor who has attacked and ridiculed his Christian student's faith throughout the film admits that it was his mother's death from an illness and his unanswered prayers for her healing when he was young that drove him to atheism. When he converses with a pastor who attempts to comfort him as he lies dying, the pastor says that God sometimes says "no" to our prayers. The professor then with anguish utters something that is to me one of the most poignant statements of the movie:

"He says no a lot."

It would be one thing if it was just prayers for new cars, A's on tests, and a date with the person you want to go out with that seem to go unanswered. But it's another thing entirely when your soul mate or child has cancer, when you're the provider of a young family and have been out of work for a long time, or when a loved one seems determined to destroy their life with substance abuse, and no light at the end of the tunnel has appeared despite repeated and deep cries to God for help.

If would also be different if the Bible didn't contain promises from God about Him being a loving Father who sees every need, One who speedily answering His children's requests, and being a God whose will cannot be thwarted.

But when Scripture speaks about nothing missing God's attention (Matthew 10:29), says that He rapidly brings about justice for those He loves (Luke 18:6-8), and claims that nothing can prevent Him from doing what He pleases (Job 42:2), unbelievers and Christians alike sometimes wrestle with existentially putting the puzzle pieces together of the difficult and painful things they have lifted to God in prayer and the seeming silence they receive from Heaven.

Such things give pause even to noted Christians such as Philip Yancey who wondered if prayer is just, "a sanctified form of talking to myself." [5]

Those Darned Christians

World renowned Christian apologist Ravi Zacharias says that, of all the thousands of questions put to him challenging Christianity, the one question that has bothered him the most was asked by a Hindu friend: "If this conversion you speak about is truly supernatural, then why is it not more evident in the lives of so many Christians that I know?"[6] In other words, a God who is said to transform should produce people with transformed lives.

Make no mistake, we're not talking so much about the Christian Church as a whole. Try as some do to rewrite history, the evidence of the countless numbers of hospitals, orphanages, schools, disaster and hunger relief organizations, homeless shelters, clothing and basic needs providers, etc., that were founded and continue to be run by Christians provide witness of Christianity's love towards people and refutes critics in the way Peter described long ago: "For this is the will of God, that by doing good you should put to silence the ignorance of foolish people" (1 Peter 2:15).

No, instead what puts a bad taste in people's mouths is the individualistic actions of people like the televangelist whose public tears for the poor dries up when allegations of corruption and theft are proven, the professing Christian at the office who maligns and stabs their co-workers in the back, the clergyman who is indicted for child pornography and sex abuse, the business that advertises itself as "Christian owned and operated" but routinely puts out shoddy work, and the church deacon who bullies, cheats on, and verbally mistreats his wife.

Who can blame anyone for eyeballing such people and remarking, "If that's what a Christian is, count me out!"

Now What?

These three turn-off's are heavy-hitting and have the potential to be devastating in people's lives. To be sure, answers for each have been given in many books and articles and I encourage those struggling with one or more of these stumbling blocks to seek out trusted Christian authors who have proven themselves to be Biblically wise in handling them.[7]

But I would like to offer something for consideration that I've never seen anyone else bring up where these issues are concerned.

Part of the problem with each issue is that they appear to exist in a contradictory manner with what the Bible seems to teach. The thought process goes something like this:
The Bible proclaims an all-powerful good God who hates evil, answers prayers, and changes lives.

But all around me I see evil, unanswered prayer, and professing Christians who don't live right.

Therefore, the Bible is wrong and doesn't match up with reality.
In essence, people see an existential mismatch between the Bible and life as we experience it. But such thinking is actually incorrect. Stop for a minute and consider...

In the Bible, sometimes the good brother is killed by the bad (Genesis 4:8), famines occur (Genesis 41:27), beloved wives like Rachel die in childbirth (Genesis 35:19), nations are conquered by countries more evil than themselves (Daniel 1:1-2), livelihoods, families, and good health are destroyed by the enemy (Job 1-2), a man who God says is the greatest to ever live is unjustly murdered in prison by an evil woman (Matthew 11:11; 14:1-12), righteous men's truthful sermons are rejected by a culture that even goes so far as to kill them (Acts 7), some prayers lifted up to spare the life of great Christians are granted (Acts 12:5, 12) while others are not (Acts 12:2).

And let's not forget the episode of how an innocent, sinless man's prayer to avoid death seems ignored (Matthew 26:42) and He ends up being traded for a known murderer (Matthew 27:21) and then crucified.

Where the lifestyle of God/Christ followers are concerned, the Bible's unvarnished exposé of its "heroes" and other professed believers mixes together episodes like Abraham lying about his wife (twice; Genesis 12:13, 20:2), Jacob deceiving his father to get Esau's blessing (Genesis 27), David committing adultery and then having the woman's husband killed (2 Samuel 11), with Judas' betrayal of Jesus (Matthew 26:47-50), the disciples abandoning Jesus (Matthew 26:56), Peter's denial of Jesus (Matthew 26:69-75), John-Mark leaving his missionary companions (Acts 13:13), Demas leaving Paul (2 Timothy 4:10), and more.

Not exactly the sugar coated happily-ever-after's and squeaky-clean characters you find in children's fairy tales.

The point is, the existence of evil, not obtaining the outcome of prayer that one desires, and flawed characters of God-followers are found everywhere in the Bible. Scripture actually very much relays — sometimes in stark and unvarnished ways — the seeming unfair reality we walk in each and every day. There is no existential mismatch between it and life.

That being true, what now are we to think? My answer is the alignment of the Bible's and our reality ought to give us hope. In Scripture, we see God redeeming great good from evil in situations such as where an innocent and sinless man's prayer for deliverance isn't answered, his close friend betrays Him, and He becomes what seems to be the tragic victim of evil.

The Bible shows us three days later why all that happened.

On this side of the cross, it's easy to reconcile the three top turn-off's of Christianity in Jesus' life. But when we're going through them and don't yet see the end God has in mind, we struggle.

In the Bible's pages we find the answer as to why evil exists and what God is one day going to do about it, why prayer doesn't work like a vending machine, and why some people who profess Christ aren't who they claim to be and why those who are true believers sometimes act like they aren't.

The question is, will we accept those answers? In the end, sometimes it comes down to really walking by faith and not by sight because we can't see the end of the road like God can.

Tough sledding sometimes? You bet. The key to overcoming these things and more is fixing our eyes on Christ who endured the "big three" issues of Christianity in His life and pressing on through them when they happen to us with hope and trust in a God who is bigger than all of them.

1. Ann O'Neill; "The reinvention of Ted Turner"
2. Nick Spencer; "Darwin's complex loss of faith"
3. Nicola Menzie; "Agnostic Scholar Bart Ehrman on 'Who Wrote the Bible and Why it Matters'"
4. Richard Dawkins; River Out of Eden: A Darwinian View of Life
5. Philip Yancey; "Does Prayer Matter?"
6. Ravi Zacharias, Beyond Opinion, 2007, back cover.
7. One book I recommend that tackles both the problem of evil and unanswered prayer well is William Lane Craig's book Hard Questions, Real Answers

Published 7-1-14